Gaslighting
From Halbeeg, the open encyclopedia · Af-Soomaali
59 languages
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which one person or group attempts to make another person doubt their memory, feelings, and assessment of what has happened. Instead of the person being able to rely on facts about a matter, gaslighting targets the person's ability to distinguish truth from falsehood.
The English term comes from an earlier play and film in which a man convinced his wife that the gas lamps in their house were functioning normally, even though she observed them changing. In Somali, various terms are used, such as dhalanteedayn and waaqacbeel, but the English word remains well known in academic writings on psychology.
Common methods
Typical methods include persistent denial of events that occurred; minimizing the person's feelings (such as "you are overreacting" or "you are being dramatic"); rewriting narratives to shift blame onto the person resisting the manipulation; and controlling the information the person receives. When sustained over time, the targeted person may begin to question what they themselves saw and heard, and may seek confirmation of the truth from others.
Where it occurs
Gaslighting is documented in intimate relationships, families, workplaces, and leadership contexts. Scholars and political writers also use the term when describing how institutions or groups systematically deny established facts or portray those who object as irrational. Broad application of the term in this way is disputed, as it may strip the word of its original meaning.
Effects
A person subjected to gaslighting often experiences reduced self-confidence, anxiety, and dependence on the manipulator. Recommended steps include documenting what happened, seeking support from trusted people outside the relationship, and professional psychological help.